Generating Power

Generating Power

racquetballTennis is one of my loves. And improving my game is a constant focus which brings me a great sense of joy and stress-relief.  After I won my tennis match today, my opponent and I debriefed with the tennis pro who offered his insights. He said I played a smart match. Inwardly I knew what he was talking about—I figured out early on in the match that my opponent would send a ball blazing fast to my side of the court if I gave her a ball with any pace on it. So I quit hitting the ball hard, especially to her forehand. Then the pro asked us what we thought about the match and my opponent blurted out with a hint of frustration, “Well, she can’t generate any power on her shots!” I offered some of my thoughts without giving away my strategy and after the conversation thanked them both for their time and for the match and got in my car to drive home.

“Hmmm…” I thought, “Nobody has ever said that I can’t hit the ball hard before. Oh well, she’s just mad she lost.” And then I tried to blow it off. But weeks later, I found myself referencing her comment out loud and replaying it in my mind and somehow trying to prove her wrong. I can hit the ball hard. Yes, I can hit the ball hard, but so what? I knew something was going on at a deeper level.

As a personal coach, mother, wife, daughter, and friend I spend a lot of time helping others generate power to move in a certain direction in their lives, sort of like a power detector, reflector and deflector. I ask lots of questions and draw people out. I help people figure out what they are good at, or what they like to do and assist them in coming up with a plan to move toward that context or to focus their energies better. In fact, I love to do it so much that my own desires sometimes get lost. Maybe it’s easier for me to help others figure themselves out than it is to look in the mirror.

I’ve begun to think that perhaps my opponent was right on some level. Her comment got me thinking that it might be time to learn how to generate more power on my shots so I can break through to another level in my tennis game. Then I can come up with a win I feel better about—a win on my terms because my offense required her to adjust her game instead of the other way around.  I have a feeling I need to focus on my core strength. Lord have mercy. And I best be working on my abs.